April 2017 – Saida Desilets

You become blocked from your inherent genius when you are domesticated. But as the desire to go beyond the confines of your limited life urges you forward, you hesitate…

You’ve been sold lies that it’s not safe to be wild. Are those lies true?

You’ve been told it’s not okay to leave the land of the domesticated pack to find your own way to another, wilder terrain. What can you trust? Who can you trust?

These are big questions, key questions that will unlock you from the lies you’ve been living. As you begin to question all that you’ve known, it’s important to know the 4 stages women go through as they choose to rewild themselves.

When you know these stages you can recognize where you are in the journey from being domesticated to becoming your authentic, wild and free self. They become your “signposts” in a very non-linear journey.

Here they are…

The 4 Stages From Domesticated to Wild

Stage 1: DOMESTICATED – IT’S ALL YOU KNOW.

You’re domesticated and you don’t realize it. You don’t even realize how much the conditioning is controlling your choices. This blog (and the previous one in this series) might be waking you up to seeing the conditioning. Great. Awareness is the first key.

Stage 2: DOMESTICATED – SCARED TO CHANGE.

You might be aware of the conditioning and yet it’s still running your choices. You haven’t found a way to break free of it. It’s like being an animal in a cage – you can see the bars but don’t know how to release yourself from the cage. Or you’re afraid to because of all the conditioning you’ve received about what it means to be wild. You believe it might be safer in the cage so you stay.

The truth is, safety kills your erotic genius and your innate sexual intelligence. What’s the cost of staying in the cage? A lifetime of unfulfillment? Of doubting yourself? Of desiring so much more yet never allowing yourself to experience that? Recognizing you have choice is the second key.

Stage 3: WILD – EXPLORING.

You’re breaking through the conditioning yet now are uncertain – what is possible beyond domestication? You are seeking support, guidance, ideas, examples, other women who have walked this path or who are walking this path. Making your sexuality, sensuality and wildness your first priority, you’ve chosen to leave the cage and explore. This requires courage. This is the 3rd key.

Stage 4: WILD – MASTERY.

You are confident in your sexuality. You have come home to yourself. You are audacious. You are embodying your inherent genius. You know you are whole and perfect just as you are. You trust yourself. You are your own authority. You have sexual sovereignty.

You are wise to know that mastery requires practice. It’s not something that occurs overnight. You choose desire and pleasure as your lifestyle. You claim it as your birthright. You have un-defined femininity and sexuality and are living a life that turns you on. Devotion to yourself and your pleasure are the 4th key.

Take a moment to reflect: where are you right now? What stage are you in?

As I have shared with you before, please don’t judge yourself no matter where you are in your journey right now. Acknowledging where you are with love inspires you to make new choices so you can come home to your wild, free self.

I invite you to join me for a free webinar on Saturday, April 29th where we will dive deeper into this conversation about coming home to ourselves as wild, free, audacious women.

Click here for more information and to claim your spot in this community of women committed to going beyond the conditioning and daring to be our true selves:

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I look forward to seeing your beautiful, powerful self there!

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Thousands of women around the world have told me again and again that for much of their lives they looked to outside “experts” for answers. They thought these people (most often men) must know more – and better – than they do.

But of course! Isn’t that the way it is for a reason? There is a multi-billion dollar industry dedicated to telling women they are wrong and need to be fixed and that the solutions lie outside of themselves.

How could a multi-billion dollar industry be wrong?

Let that sink in for a moment…

There is a multi-billion dollar industry profiting from your insecurity; from your doubt and distrust of yourself. The lies this industry spews about women: who you should be, who you shouldn’t be, what you should do, what you shouldn’t do, are so pervasive. They can feel like the water you swim in: just the way it is.

But I’m here to tell you THIS IS NOT JUST THE WAY IT IS.

These lies have domesticated women and disconnected us from our own inherent genius within.

I say NO MORE! No more buying these lies. No more allowing ourselves to be tamed and trained to be smaller, controllable versions of ourselves.

Beautiful you, is it time you say NO MORE to these lies? NO MORE to being domesticated? No more to suppressing your greatness?

If so, congratulations. I celebrate your choice! By saying NO MORE to the lies you are also saying YES to yourself.

As you move forward from here it’s important to know the 3 signs that you are domesticated. When you can spot these signs in your own life, you begin to see the “water” you’ve been swimming in. This is the first step to rewilding yourself.

3 Signs You’re Domesticated:

You defer to outside authorities on issues related to your body, your finances, your worth, your pleasure, your sexuality.
You believe you are not good enough, woman enough, sexy enough, feminine enough, complete enough, orgasmic enough.
You think you need to be perfect: the perfect sexual partner, the perfect wife, the perfect mom, the perfect Board member, the perfect everything.

So, take a moment for an honest, loving, reality check with yourself.

How often do you defer to outside authorities? How much of your life have you spent obsessing with being good enough and being perfect?

Be kind with yourself. This is not the time for judging yourself. The domestication of women has rested on the power of being able to judge and shame you. So you get to be bigger than that, kinder than that. The only way to change this cycle of judgment is to stop the judgment.

How do you do this? Acknowledge that you’ve been domesticated and that you are choosing to change this. Don’t waste time or energy on judging what has been. Instead, set your sights to what is ahead…

There is so much inherent genius in your body, in your feminine psyche, in your pleasure. The only way to free yourself from domestication is to rewild yourself. And the only way to rewild yourself and free your greatness from suppression is to come home to yourself.

How?

~ Instead of looking outside yourself for answers, choose to be your own authority.

~ Instead of believing you are not enough, begin to love yourself into wholeness.

~ Instead of trying to be some perfect version of what others think you should be, begin to explore your authentic, true self within.

Coming home to yourself, to your true self, is the biggest gift you can give yourself. To support you in this journey, I invite you to join me on Saturday, April 29th for a free webinar as we dive deeper into this topic of rewilding ourselves.

Click the link below for more information and to claim your spot as a wild woman, a free woman, an audacious woman:

The Audacity of Pleasure: How Dare You Make Pleasure Your Lifestyle?
3 Big Pitfalls & Promises of Pleasure

Remember: You deserve to be free and wild. It is your birthright and the only way that your authentic self can know true pleasure and fulfillment.

Want to challenge yourself daily? Join The Daring Project, it’s free for 30-days! Click here to join.