Every single day we are barraged with intense programming from the media, from our families, even from our girlfriends, about what we should look like.

These external standards of beauty are ridiculous! Yet we do what we can to try to fit into them, to try to create the ideal body.

We diet. We do intense workouts. We starve ourselves or binge and purge. We pop pills. (What have you done to try to create the ideal body? Or perhaps the better question is, what haven’t you done to try to create the ideal body?)

We internalize those definitions of what beauty is supposed to be and never measure up.

And then what do we do?

We make ourselves wrong for falling short of these external definitions of beauty. We criticize ourselves. We judge ourselves. We set New Year’s Resolutions with a commitment to lose the extra weight or get back into the gym or other goals that are focused on fitting into someone else’s definition of beauty.

We buy into the lie that we are flawed. That we are imperfect. That there is something wrong with us.

Well, I’m here to tell you this is bullshit!

It’s time to stop the madness and throw out the old standards of beauty.

There is another way to be a woman in this world…

There is another way to recognize and embrace your unique beauty…

It involves redefining beauty on your terms and choosing new kinds of resolutions that are revolutionary in a world that wants to make you be something you’re not.

You ready for this?

Let’s do it…

STEP 1: Identify Your Limited Definition Of Yourself

When we allow external standards of beauty to define us, we ultimately don’t measure up. How can we ever achieve the ideal unrealistic body? As a result, we walk around with a limiting thought about ourselves.

Most women, when I ask them what is the biggest limiting thought they have of themselves, are quick to answer:

“I’m not beautiful enough.”

“I’m not perfect enough.”

“I’m not enough.”

“I’m too much.”

What is the limited definition you have of yourself? Write it down or say it out loud.

These definitions are very harmful! And they end up defining our reality. We invest our life force into a definition about ourselves that holds us back from seeing and being the beautiful wild creatures that we are. These judgments also stop us from creating the lives we really truly desire to have.

The first step to breaking free of these definitions is to identify and name them. You have started to reclaim your power with this step… but you must keep going…

STEP 2: Notice How This Limited Definition Feels In Your Body

Say the limited definition you have of yourself out loud (again).

• What do you notice is happening in your body when you say these words?
• What goes on in your body when you feel this negative definition to be true in your mind, body and heart?
• See the connection between the limited definition and how you feel in your body?

Our definitions of ourselves literally define our reality. How can you feel lit up, alive, sexy and beautiful when you’re continually telling yourself you’re not enough and you’re not beautiful?

That’s why it’s time to take the next step…

STEP 3: Redefine Beauty On Your Terms

Now you get to create a new definition for yourself about beauty.

• How do you wish to feel about yourself?
• How do you desire to feel in your body?
• How do you experience yourself when you’re out in nature or soaking in a luscious hot bath? (These experiences give you clues about your true self!)

Tune into your responses to these questions and, from a place of power, consider, what is true for you? How would you like to redefine beauty for yourself?

Here are some redefinitions of beauty that clients of mine created:

“I am radiant and deeply alive.”

“I am wildly alive.”

“I am connected and whole.”

“I am happy, embodied and loving my delicious curves.”

What is your redefinition of beauty? Write it down or say it out loud.

STEP 4: Notice How This Redefinition Of Beauty Feels In Your Body

We are flipping things around! Now say your redefinition of beauty out loud (again).

• What do you notice is happening in your body when you say these words?
• What goes on in your body when you feel claim this definition to be true in your mind, body and heart?
• See the connection between the more expansive, truer definition and how you feel in your body?

As I said above, our definitions of ourselves literally define our reality. Imagine moving through your days in the New Year with your redefinition of beauty as your affirmation, your anchor, your reference point for what true beauty is for YOU. How might your life be different?

That’s why we’re going to take this exercise one more step to really support you in embodying your new definition of beauty…

STEP 5: Revolutionize Your Resolutions With Your Redefinition Of Beauty

I dare you to create a revolutionary intention for 2018. How?

Take your redefinition of beauty and turn it into a daily practice. This could look many different ways:

• Say it out loud to yourself while looking in the mirror every morning.
• Write it down on post-it notes and put them around your house (like on your mirror, computer, on a cupboard you regularly open, even in your car!).
• Write it in lipstick on your bathroom mirror.
• Turn it into a song that you sing to yourself.

Get creative with this! After spending decades buying into what others have to say about our bodies and our beauty, it’s time to make your voice and your definitions louder and more powerful than theirs.

That’s why I’m encouraging you to turn this into a daily practice as your new Revolutionary Intention! So you can embody and embrace your beauty more than ever in 2018.

In a world that wants you to feel powerless and at the mercy of external definitions of what you should look like, the act of redefining beauty on your terms is revolutionary.

Do you accept my dare?

If so, share your new definition of beauty with me below, so I can celebrate you with you!! (And if you like, you can also share with me how you’re going to make a revolutionary intention with your new definition of beauty!)

Redefining beauty on our terms is a key step in reclaiming body confidence. Would you like to embody more confidence in the New Year? If so, I invite you to check out my Body Confidence Immersion Training (part of my Sensual Wisdom Series). Click here for more information.

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