Single & Lovin’ It:

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7 Secrets To A Sensually Fulfilling Single Life.

You are single, lonely and wondering when Partner Right is going to come along and sweep you off to ‘happily ever after.’

To make matters worse, all your friends are getting married, but somehow, you haven’t managed to even get a boyfriend, never mind a date.

Desperate, you join different online dating groups and have campaigned all your friends to introduce you to any available bachelor.

When you are out with your girlfriend, you notice all the attention she gets from men and you feel like a fly on the wall, watching the flirting game as though its an alien language.

Finally you get a date, only to realize that he’s so boring and unsexy, you’d rather by curled up on your couch with your cat, watching your favorite TV series.

Are you destined to be single forever?

Being single isn’t a disease.

In fact, there are many advantages to being single.

First of all, you do not have to compromise yourself for anyone. You are free to live without having to take someone else’s needs and neurosis into consideration.

Secondly, you have much more time to spend on your own hobbies and passions, without having to negotiate your time or space.

And finally, you are not alone.

You actually have an incredible opportunity to have a profound, delicious, sexy, fulfilling relationship… with yourself!

I call this the Primary Relationship.

It is the most important relationship you will ever have in your entire life.

It is the only relationship that lasts a lifetime, all the rest come and go, even if it is death that parts you.

Without a healthy primary relationship, we actually do not have much to offer a relationship with another person.

Which is why being single is such an important part of life.

It is the time where we fill our own gourmet plate and toss our beggar’s bowl into the trash.

What do you think is sexier?

A woman who is needy, looking to be fulfilled by someone?

Or a woman who is content and turned on on her own, open to meeting someone to share the adventure of life with?

Sexy, Single Secrets…

As promised, here are some secrets to making your time as a single woman delicious:

1) Turn yourself on. “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away”. Take time to pleasure yourself, daily if possible. The more you keep your juices flowing, the more you glow and the more fulfilled (and attractive) you become.

2) Fill your own heart. Become your own most intimate lover. What makes you tick? What strips you of joy and delight? Being alone is a great time to decipher our own patterns and to intentionally repattern ourselves.

The more we know ourselves, the more we will have to offer in a relationship. Successful relationships rely on the autonomy of both individuals.

Co-dependence is painful and ultimately unsexy. So the better you fulfill your own heart and know honest what is non-negotiable for you, the you stand to offer another person.

3) Enjoy dating! Who said that you couldn’t date more than one person at one time? Dating is fun and keeps us connected to people. It takes us out of being an island and teaches us a lot about being a genuine listen and clear communicator.

4) Take a lover or three. We no longer live in an era where we must succumb to our families wishes and choices of a partner. In fact, we are free to take the lover(s) that we choose.

Think of your lovers as ‘love laboratories’. Practice radical honesty and transparency. Explore your erotic nature and discover your likes and dislikes. Play!

Did I say play?

The biggest mistake we make when we are single is to take the subject of relationship too seriously!

No one wants to be around a serious person 24/7.

5) Discover what relationship means to you. Are you looking to be a mother? A daughter? A lover? What role have you fallen into in the past?

Do you always mother your partner? Or are you looking for daddy to take care of all of your needs? Do you want someone to seduce you and rock your world?

6) Relationship isn’t something we actually need to work at.  So many experts tell us to do this or that and we will have better relationships, but the truth is, relationships are the RESULT of two people coming together.

What does this mean?

It means that WHO you are is more important than what you do.

This is why being single is so important.

It is the time when we discover who we really are and relationship is the time to share it.

7) Practice with your friend and family. The truth is, we are always in relationship, with many people. Notice how you respond to others.

Start to pay attention to your relational habits and if they are less than fulfilling, change them!

If being your own best lover and developing your own gourmet plate is something that deliciously inspires you, you may enjoy deepening this experience through reading my book: Click here to get my book, Emergence of the Sensual Woman.

 

 

The 2nd Clitoris:

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A 3-Part Secret That Every Woman Must Know.

By now most of us are hopefully well aware of the 8000 nerve endings in the glans of our clitoris.

That secret part of us, that with touch or simply a thought, will start pulsing and deliciously reverberating pleasure throughout our whole body.

The part of us that can be either numbed out through over-use or still patiently waiting to be discovered and awakened.

And the fun doesn’t stop there. Few of us are aware of our ‘second’ clitoris!

Hidden within our depths is an undiscovered point of bliss, a bliss so great it can even by pass that of our clitoris.

Where’s the proof?

In your pants. Your panties to be more specific.

Anatomically, it is called the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (AFE zone or A-spot). It is found in the deepest part of your vagina, right in front of your cervix (see image below).

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So yes, I lied.

This isn’t exactly a second clitoris, but the pleasure generated by this place is so intense, it can be equivalent to or superior to that a clitoral orgasm.

And if you haven’t discovered it yet, do yourself a favor and leave your clitoris alone for a moment and literally spend time inside yourself!

How can I wake this up?

Some of us, through exploring intercourse or sex toys, naturally awaken this area. However, some of us need to explore a little more intentionally.

We all can exercise and enhance this area through regular stimulation.

Why?

We have heard that the last two thirds of our vagina has less sensitivity than the first third.

This is true for an atrophied or untrained pelvis.

Once we exercise our vaginas more regularly, however, we start to enervate our vagina and surrounding pelvic region.

This means that we actually grow more nerves and erectile tissue! And with this grows our capacity for pleasure.

Here are a few ways to exercise this deeper part of our vaginas:

  • We practice ‘sucking’ up a Jade Egg, a sex toy or our partner.
  • We continue ‘milking’ our egg, toy or partner (this is easier if our partner isn’t doing a lot of moving).
  • We can massage this area to awaken it and further enhance it.

Surprise bonus that comes with waking up this epic spot.

Lubrication!

We are meant to be juicy and this leads to more and more juiciness. In fact, if we have issues with lubrication, we would benefit greatly from a regular practice of this deep, internal massage.

The intensity of pleasure may require us to pause between orgasms just so we can better assimilate our expanding bliss.

The other bonus for hetro-sexual couples is that it feels amazing to our partner. As we get stronger and stronger, his pleasure equally intensifies.

What’s more?

We have a 2nd epicenter, or as I like to say, epic-enter!

The Posterior Fornix—located behind the cervix in the same depths as the Anterior Fornix—is what I call: the hidden Bliss-gasm or Bliss spot (see image above).

It is snoring peacefully in most of us, but trust me when I say that it doesn’t mind a little awakening, so long as it isn’t a rude one.

This place is best stimulated by a finger, but also by a toy or partner.

A finger is allows us to sense more thoroughly ‘spot’ we are massaging and assists us in creating a powerful bio-feedback loop of pleasure.

Yet we are more than the sum of our parts…

So what about the cervix?

Our cervix, which is conveniently close to both the Anterior and Posterior Fornix, is not disconnected from them.

In fact, it is vital to include our cervix in this 3 part harmony.

For most of us, the pain of an accidental bump from our partner’s deep thrusting is how we discover our cervix. OW!

But if we were to take a finger and gently massage our cervix, something remarkable happens.

At first, we may not experience much sensation as our cervix may be numb. However, through regular massage (and pelvic exercise), we encourage a stronger blood flow to our cervix and therefore, create more cervical sensation.

It is possible to induce orgasm, both locally in the cervix and in the area of our physical heart. It literally can feel like a heart-gasm! Delicious!!

Beyond just another sex trick, this practice of awakening our deeper erotic zones invites us to trust, love, and explore ourselves without being goal-oriented.

We literally are invited to shift our focus from ‘doing’ something sexually into relaxing into ‘being’ a sexual being.

With this focus on surrendering into our erotic wisdom, we give our body permission to open up in ways we have yet to dream of.

Nothing can be more worthy of our time.

If surrendering to your erotic wisdom is something that sounds delicious to you, then a great place to start is with my book. Click here to get it now.