The 2nd Clitoris:

A 3-Part Secret That Every Woman Must Know.

By now most of us are hopefully well aware of the 8000 nerve endings in the glans of our clitoris.

That secret part of us, that with touch or simply a thought, will start pulsing and deliciously reverberating pleasure throughout our whole body.

The part of us that can be either numbed out through over-use or still patiently waiting to be discovered and awakened.

And the fun doesn’t stop there. Few of us are aware of our ‘second’ clitoris!

Hidden within our depths is an undiscovered point of bliss, a bliss so great it can even by pass that of our clitoris.

Where’s the proof?

In your pants. Your panties to be more specific.

Anatomically, it is called the Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone (AFE zone or A-spot). It is found in the deepest part of your vagina, right in front of your cervix (see image below).

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So yes, I lied.

This isn’t exactly a second clitoris, but the pleasure generated by this place is so intense, it can be equivalent to or superior to that a clitoral orgasm.

And if you haven’t discovered it yet, do yourself a favor and leave your clitoris alone for a moment and literally spend time inside yourself!

How can I wake this up?

Some of us, through exploring intercourse or sex toys, naturally awaken this area. However, some of us need to explore a little more intentionally.

We all can exercise and enhance this area through regular stimulation.

Why?

We have heard that the last two thirds of our vagina has less sensitivity than the first third.

This is true for an atrophied or untrained pelvis.

Once we exercise our vaginas more regularly, however, we start to enervate our vagina and surrounding pelvic region.

This means that we actually grow more nerves and erectile tissue! And with this grows our capacity for pleasure.

Here are a few ways to exercise this deeper part of our vaginas:

  • We practice ‘sucking’ up a Jade Egg, a sex toy or our partner.
  • We continue ‘milking’ our egg, toy or partner (this is easier if our partner isn’t doing a lot of moving).
  • We can massage this area to awaken it and further enhance it.

Surprise bonus that comes with waking up this epic spot.

Lubrication!

We are meant to be juicy and this leads to more and more juiciness. In fact, if we have issues with lubrication, we would benefit greatly from a regular practice of this deep, internal massage.

The intensity of pleasure may require us to pause between orgasms just so we can better assimilate our expanding bliss.

The other bonus for hetro-sexual couples is that it feels amazing to our partner. As we get stronger and stronger, his pleasure equally intensifies.

What’s more?

We have a 2nd epicenter, or as I like to say, epic-enter!

The Posterior Fornix—located behind the cervix in the same depths as the Anterior Fornix—is what I call: the hidden Bliss-gasm or Bliss spot (see image above).

It is snoring peacefully in most of us, but trust me when I say that it doesn’t mind a little awakening, so long as it isn’t a rude one.

This place is best stimulated by a finger, but also by a toy or partner.

A finger is allows us to sense more thoroughly ‘spot’ we are massaging and assists us in creating a powerful bio-feedback loop of pleasure.

Yet we are more than the sum of our parts…

So what about the cervix?

Our cervix, which is conveniently close to both the Anterior and Posterior Fornix, is not disconnected from them.

In fact, it is vital to include our cervix in this 3 part harmony.

For most of us, the pain of an accidental bump from our partner’s deep thrusting is how we discover our cervix. OW!

But if we were to take a finger and gently massage our cervix, something remarkable happens.

At first, we may not experience much sensation as our cervix may be numb. However, through regular massage (and pelvic exercise), we encourage a stronger blood flow to our cervix and therefore, create more cervical sensation.

It is possible to induce orgasm, both locally in the cervix and in the area of our physical heart. It literally can feel like a heart-gasm! Delicious!!

Beyond just another sex trick, this practice of awakening our deeper erotic zones invites us to trust, love, and explore ourselves without being goal-oriented.

We literally are invited to shift our focus from ‘doing’ something sexually into relaxing into ‘being’ a sexual being.

With this focus on surrendering into our erotic wisdom, we give our body permission to open up in ways we have yet to dream of.

Nothing can be more worthy of our time.

If surrendering to your erotic wisdom is something that sounds delicious to you, then a great place to start is with my book. Click here to get it now.


8 replies
  1. Allen
    Allen says:

    I wonder as @Patrick stated. “guys like me”. These areas are at depth so some may not be able to reach. I’m 5.5″ and have felt my partners cervix but not sure how an average person can take that contact and turn it upwards to push in front of cervix and know that a lot of men can not touch behind it. So length can matter and is heart & soul wrenching. All very interesting but

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    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Hi Allen, thank you for your share. When lovers are skilled, there are ways to position (and for the woman to move) which brings her cervix lower and accessible. So size does impact, yet there are ways to move that enable even a woman, with her own finger, to touch her cervix. Unfortunately, your post is incomplete, so hopefully you’ll complete your last sentence.

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  2. carol
    carol says:

    hi my dear
    i’m back in San Fransisco and
    wanting to see you and work with you….
    any chance you might be coming this way??
    hope you are great.
    Carol
    any chance you might be coming to the bay area!!

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  3. Marie
    Marie says:

    Saida- I love your teachings and your videos. I am a qigong instructor who has just turned 60 and I worry that you may not be addressing the sexuality of the mature, menopausal and post-menopausal woman. When I was young, I taught dance and some of my students who were older women talked wistfully about their bodies not being able to do things they used to do. I didn’t understand then, but I do now! Can you say something to this?

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    • Saida
      Saida says:

      Sweet Marie!

      Thank you for your kind words!

      I have not written as much on menopausal and post-menopausal women, you are right.

      These articles are forthcoming. 🙂

      Meanwhile, I have had the HONOR and PLEASURE of teaching women in the 50s, 60s, 70s and yes, even 80s!

      The common thread amongst those who apply what they learn is that they are able to restore their hormonal and pelvic health and start to feel delicious, sensual, and yes, even frisky!

      If you have a more specific question, feel free to leave it here.

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  4. patrick
    patrick says:

    There was some class action lawsuit against some company that built medical implants – they were intended to treat a condition involving a prolapsed uterus, where the uterus drops out into the vagina, and their implants were not working and causing terrible pains. When I learned about this, I searched for images and the ones I found were disturbing. I considered that a little muscle building in the right place, as mentioned here, might go a long way in avoidance of such condition and the quack medicine available to treat it. I’m not giving medical advise, just proposing what seems like common sense – that tuning for pleasure as suggested may have fringe benefits in other ways also. Oh, and there’s another thing – guys like me with small penises (an Irish leprechaun thing) will likely never be able to reach the depths of such beauty – maybe women can work around such shortcomings by doing this.

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    • Theresa
      Theresa says:

      @Patrick How sweet. And to your “guys like me” comment, I say “It’s not the length of the wand, but the magic of the rabbit.” May the skillful, tender lover in you come out in all his glory!

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