Spiritual Sex: Why Women Search For It & Don’t Find It
You know, deep down, there has got to be ‘more’ to sex than what you are currently living.
In fact, you no longer want to have sex unless it’s spiritual, yet the men you meet all seem clueless to this superior sexual state.
Intrigued by the possibility of experiencing an exquisite and refined sexual state, you realize that you have no idea how to get there.
Investigating both Tantric and Taoist sexual teachings, you find yourself wondering when the promised “Spiritual orgasm” will propel you out of boredom.
What is Spiritual Sex?
For some of us, it means a connection between Spirituality and Sexuality.
For others, it is slowing things down and meditating together.
And still for others, it is an aloof state whose promises sound intriguing, yet the practice to get there is unattractive.
Yet what if it had nothing to do with praying, ritual, or exotic sexual positions?
What if spiritual sex was a misnomer for a state of being that is natural to all people?
Perhaps our yearning to experience an union between spirituality and sexuality is the same yearning we have for experiencing ‘oneness’.
By taking our fragmented parts and reuniting them we experience the deep pleasure of wholeness.
Consider what we are really saying when we want to have a Spiritual Lover.
When we examine Spirituality, the end result of most Spiritual paths is the loss of desire and the permanent state of celibacy.
A spiritual lover—a person tuned into subtle sensations that move in their body—may or may not always be aware that we are there with them.
This seems to me that such a lover would be preoccupied with themselves and not as attentive as we may desire.
In truth, I sense we are looking for consciousness.
For a lover that is present and awake, and who has the ability to be attentive and sensitive to our body.
We yearn for things to slow down and we yearn for orgasms that reach beyond our pelvis into the realms of supernatural ecstasy.
But the greatest motivator for seeking spiritual sex is not what we think.
Somewhere, deep down, we believe sex is bad, dirty, or even harmful.
And the only way to consolidate our desire is to make it okay by saying it is spiritual. We want to make sex pristine, pure, and beautiful.
But no amount of ritual can transform sexuality from its primal impulses into an ‘out-of-body-connected-to-spirit’ experience.
This is why, time and time again, we are seduced by the ‘spiritual lingo’ used to get us into bed.
The worse part is not that someone pulled one over. It’s that we chose to believe their poetic words and blindly jumped into a sexual encounter.
Feeling used. And confirmation that sex is bad and where are all the spiritual men anyway?
If spiritual sex doesn’t exist, then what?!
The experience of ‘transcendent sex’—sex that is beyond just the normal realm of the physical—is more common than we think.
In fact, every human being has within them the door to accessing their own deep consciousness. Many of us can actually access this without any formal practice.
Here is the kicker: Our unconsciousness makes sex profane or fragmented.
It is our consciousness, our ability to be deeply aware, that makes sex sacred.
Sexuality and spirituality are natural parts of who we are. Through awakening our awareness and bringing it into our erotic play, we make all erotic expressions sacred.
We are simultaneously sexual and spiritual. How can we not be?
Do we leave our genitals on the bedside table when leaving for work? They come with us no matter where we go and what we are doing!
The same goes for our consciousness, whether or not we recognize it, it is always with us, being witness to our life.
Before we throw up our hands and give up, consider the following:
- We are innately hard-wired for transcendent sex.
- The pressure to create a ‘spiritual’ sexual experience makes it more difficult if not impossible to experience.
- By choosing to be with what is real and in the moment, we invite our erotic nature to be imbued with deep consciousness.
- Awakened sexual experiences can happen whether or not our partner is experiencing the same state. In other words, experiencing sacred or spiritual sex doesn’t require both people to have the same experience.
Spiritual sex is our birthright.
By simply learning to be more present, more connected with ourselves, and more willing to let go of knowing what is suppose to happen, we can relax and enjoy what is actually happening, whether or not the angels are singing!
To be deep, conscious sex requires us to live a deep, conscious life. There is no separation between what happens in the bedroom and what happens on a daily basis.
Does the idea of waking up and enjoying the amazing subtle nuances of your erotic energy feel like something worthy of your time? A great place to start is with my book.