The Toltecs have a beautiful definition for impeccability: To be impeccable means to not use words against yourself (self-criticism/self-shaming) or others (criticism/shaming).
Let’s add to that definition our ability to reside, fully, in our own sexual sovereignty.
From this perspective, impeccability creates a clear presence, one that is not weighed down by the burden of maintaining lies or hurtful thoughts about oneself or others.
It allows for clarity of mind, heart and body, where you are free to feel the fullness of your undomesticated erotic genius without having to act out in any particular or pre-determined way.
This allows us to by-pass socially pressured or endorsed (enforced) ways of being a sexual creature such as “all flirting leadings to sex”, “all touch indicates desire for sex”, and “all sexual delights” infers to “please take me now.”
These rather clumsy and juvenile ways of expressing our sexual selves also leads to behaviors that are out of integrity with oneself.
How is it that to be ‘sexually liberated’ we must actually be able to have sex with whomever-whenever? Since when is that an act of liberation?
Then add into the mix alcohol and recreational substances and you have a potent combo of neurotic, shallow and unsatisfying sex.
In fact, in some groups, if a woman’s vagina isn’t readily available to everyone she is considered sexually repressed.
That’s where sexual liberation is actually a facade for sexual ignorance.
It is where we lose sight of the opportunity to feel into the scintillating aliveness that is pulsing between two people.
Why not play and enjoy this sexual tension?
What’s the rush to resolve this tension all about?
What are we afraid of if we don’t ‘take things all the way’?
Impeccability is sexy, deeply so.
It allows all of you to meet all of me.
We can be vulnerable together, open and pure in our dance, free of goals or even the need to control the outcome.
We can enjoy the exquisite unfolding of something utterly profound and magical, without ever having to take our clothes off.
Don’t get me wrong, I love skin to skin connection with the person I choose, I love, I respect and I’m willing to see and be seen by.
But I’m not talking about deep lovemaking or wild, abandoned Eros (although it is included in this discussion).
What I’m speaking of is revolutionary: it is unbridled, pure, erotic innocence leading the way.
Not innocence with ignorance.
But innocence with integrated consciousness.
In other words, innocence with impeccability.
This is where we meet, outside of social pressures, outside of our conditioning, outside of predetermined social constructs… where pure creativity leads the way.
It is where my sexual sovereignty and yours come together to play.
It’s where our omni-orgasmic birthright ignites herself and infuses our moments.
Where even just a breath sends ripples of delight into all the curves and valleys of our being.
Without impeccability, we are left playing with projections and insecurities, becoming beggars in the equation.
Yet… we are all gourmet.
All born into this birthright and responsibility.
How amazing that it gets to be one that is capable of creating tremendously beautiful experiences of profound pleasure along with unshakable integrity.
If delighting in the creative nature of your erotic innocence in combination with being impeccable is something you’d love to learn more about, you may want to start with my book: Emergence of the Sensual Woman.
As always, I would love to hear directly from you. What did you find challenging about this article? Was there anything that inspired you? How do you treat yourself or others, especially with regards to sexuality? Let me know in the comment section below.