You know, deep down, there has got to be ‘more’ to sex than what you are currently living.

In fact, you no longer want to have sex unless it’s spiritual, yet the men you meet all seem clueless to this superior sexual state.

Intrigued by the possibility of experiencing an exquisite and refined sexual state, you realize that you have no idea how to get there.

Investigating both Tantric and Taoist sexual teachings, you find yourself wondering when the promised “Spiritual orgasm” will propel you out of boredom.

What is Spiritual Sex?

For some of us, it means a connection between Spirituality and Sexuality.

For others, it is slowing things down and meditating together.

And still for others, it is an aloof state whose promises sound intriguing, yet the practice to get there is unattractive.

Yet what if it had nothing to do with praying, ritual, or exotic sexual positions?

What if spiritual sex was a misnomer for a state of being that is natural to all people?

Perhaps our yearning to experience an union between spirituality and sexuality is the same yearning we have for experiencing ‘oneness’.

By taking our fragmented parts and reuniting them we experience the deep pleasure of wholeness.

Wholeness. Holiness.

Consider what we are really saying when we want to have a Spiritual Lover.

When we examine Spirituality, the end result of most Spiritual paths is the loss of desire and the permanent state of celibacy.

A spiritual lover—a person tuned into subtle sensations that move in their body—may or may not always be aware that we are there with them.

This seems to me that such a lover would be preoccupied with themselves and not as attentive as we may desire.

In truth, I sense we are looking for consciousness.

For a lover that is present and awake, and who has the ability to be attentive and sensitive to our body.

We yearn for things to slow down and we yearn for orgasms that reach beyond our pelvis into the realms of supernatural ecstasy.

But the greatest motivator for seeking spiritual sex is not what we think.

Somewhere, deep down, we believe sex is bad, dirty, or even harmful.

And the only way to consolidate our desire is to make it okay by saying it is spiritual. We want to make sex pristine, pure, and beautiful.

But no amount of ritual can transform sexuality from its primal impulses into an ‘out-of-body-connected-to-spirit’ experience.

This is why, time and time again, we are seduced by the ‘spiritual lingo’ used to get us into bed.

The worse part is not that someone pulled one over. It’s that we chose to believe their poetic words and blindly jumped into a sexual encounter.

Result: Dissatisfaction.

Feeling used. And confirmation that sex is bad and where are all the spiritual men anyway?

If spiritual sex doesn’t exist, then what?!

The experience of ‘transcendent sex’—sex that is beyond just the normal realm of the physical—is more common than we think.

In fact, every human being has within them the door to accessing their own deep consciousness. Many of us can actually access this without any formal practice.

Here is the kicker: Our unconsciousness makes sex profane or fragmented.

It is our consciousness, our ability to be deeply aware, that makes sex sacred.

Sexuality and spirituality are natural parts of who we are. Through awakening our awareness and bringing it into our erotic play, we make all erotic expressions sacred.

We are simultaneously sexual and spiritual. How can we not be?

Do we leave our genitals on the bedside table when leaving for work? They come with us no matter where we go and what we are doing!

The same goes for our consciousness, whether or not we recognize it, it is always with us, being witness to our life.

Before we throw up our hands and give up, consider the following:

• We are innately hard-wired for transcendent sex.
• The pressure to create a ‘spiritual’ sexual experience makes it more difficult if not impossible to experience.
• By choosing to be with what is real and in the moment, we invite our erotic nature to be imbued with deep consciousness.
• Awakened sexual experiences can happen whether or not our partner is experiencing the same state. In other words, experiencing sacred or spiritual sex doesn’t require both people to have the same experience.

Spiritual sex is our birthright.

By simply learning to be more present, more connected with ourselves, and more willing to let go of knowing what is suppose to happen, we can relax and enjoy what is actually happening, whether or not the angels are singing!

To be deep, conscious sex requires us to live a deep, conscious life. There is no separation between what happens in the bedroom and what happens on a daily basis.

Does the idea of waking up and enjoying the amazing subtle nuances of your erotic energy feel like something worthy of your time? A great place to start is with my book.

7 Secrets To A Sensually Fulfilling Single Life.

You are single, lonely and wondering when Partner Right is going to come along and sweep you off to ‘happily ever after.’

To make matters worse, all your friends are getting married, but somehow, you haven’t managed to even get a boyfriend, never mind a date.

Desperate, you join different online dating groups and have campaigned all your friends to introduce you to any available bachelor.

When you are out with your girlfriend, you notice all the attention she gets from men and you feel like a fly on the wall, watching the flirting game as though its an alien language.

Finally you get a date, only to realize that he’s so boring and unsexy, you’d rather by curled up on your couch with your cat, watching your favorite TV series.

Are you destined to be single forever?

Being single isn’t a disease.

In fact, there are many advantages to being single.

First of all, you do not have to compromise yourself for anyone. You are free to live without having to take someone else’s needs and neurosis into consideration.

Secondly, you have much more time to spend on your own hobbies and passions, without having to negotiate your time or space.

And finally, you are not alone.

You actually have an incredible opportunity to have a profound, delicious, sexy, fulfilling relationship… with yourself!

I call this the Primary Relationship.

It is the most important relationship you will ever have in your entire life.

It is the only relationship that lasts a lifetime, all the rest come and go, even if it is death that parts you.

Without a healthy primary relationship, we actually do not have much to offer a relationship with another person.

Which is why being single is such an important part of life.

It is the time where we fill our own gourmet plate and toss our beggar’s bowl into the trash.

What do you think is sexier?

A woman who is needy, looking to be fulfilled by someone?

Or a woman who is content and turned on on her own, open to meeting someone to share the adventure of life with?

Sexy, Single Secrets…

As promised, here are some secrets to making your time as a single woman delicious:

1) Turn yourself on. “An orgasm a day keeps the doctor away”. Take time to pleasure yourself, daily if possible. The more you keep your juices flowing, the more you glow and the more fulfilled (and attractive) you become.

2) Fill your own heart. Become your own most intimate lover. What makes you tick? What strips you of joy and delight? Being alone is a great time to decipher our own patterns and to intentionally repattern ourselves.

The more we know ourselves, the more we will have to offer in a relationship. Successful relationships rely on the autonomy of both individuals.

Co-dependence is painful and ultimately unsexy. So the better you fulfill your own heart and know honest what is non-negotiable for you, the you stand to offer another person.

3) Enjoy dating! Who said that you couldn’t date more than one person at one time? Dating is fun and keeps us connected to people. It takes us out of being an island and teaches us a lot about being a genuine listen and clear communicator.

4) Take a lover or three. We no longer live in an era where we must succumb to our families wishes and choices of a partner. In fact, we are free to take the lover(s) that we choose.

Think of your lovers as ‘love laboratories’. Practice radical honesty and transparency. Explore your erotic nature and discover your likes and dislikes. Play!

Did I say play?

The biggest mistake we make when we are single is to take the subject of relationship too seriously!

No one wants to be around a serious person 24/7.

5) Discover what relationship means to you. Are you looking to be a mother? A daughter? A lover? What role have you fallen into in the past?

Do you always mother your partner? Or are you looking for daddy to take care of all of your needs? Do you want someone to seduce you and rock your world?

6) Relationship isn’t something we actually need to work at.  So many experts tell us to do this or that and we will have better relationships, but the truth is, relationships are the RESULT of two people coming together.

What does this mean?

It means that WHO you are is more important than what you do.

This is why being single is so important.

It is the time when we discover who we really are and relationship is the time to share it.

7) Practice with your friend and family. The truth is, we are always in relationship, with many people. Notice how you respond to others.

Start to pay attention to your relational habits and if they are less than fulfilling, change them!

If being your own best lover and developing your own gourmet plate is something that deliciously inspires you, you may enjoy deepening this experience through reading my book: Click here to get my book, Emergence of the Sensual Woman.

Why Do Over 62.5 Million Women Suffer From It?

You are with your partner, you care for them, but you haven’t had sex in months…

Actually, it has been YEARS since you have desired sex and intimacy…

To make matters worse, every time your partner initiates sex, your whole body freezes in terror. Headaches, yeast infections, or debilitating vaginal pain show up as the perfect diversion.

Or maybe it’s numbness from masking the pain of your partner’s affair until you forget what its like to surrender to your heart and body.

Perhaps secretly you tell yourself that you HATE sex and feel like your libido is somewhat of a lost relic.

The longer this goes on, the more you are starved from a deep, unmet need—the desire to belong, to be loved, and to be expressed as an erotically alive woman.

Sexual Anorexia or ‘starving our eros’ is more common and insidious then we think.

Mountains of false perceptions and sexual propaganda are constantly stealing our attention, leading us away from our own living truth.

One such lie is that ‘it’s too late’, that we are ‘too old to bother’. But experience tells otherwise:

Take Rebecca*, in her mid-70s, small, refined, yet brittle. Her face etched with deep lines of sadness reveals the truth: 30 sexless years. And the sex she did have was unpleasant, at times painful, and most often something to ‘get over with’.

With timid, yet dedicated determination, she embarked on a great archaeological adventure to recover her erotic nature. Once excavated, she discovered her own fountain of youth!

Rebecca claimed her erotic self, rejuvenated her sexual health, and promptly claimed a young 52 year old lover.

Rebecca’s story isn’t a miracle. It is every women’s birthright.

When we recognize that the pain of staying the same is more painful than change itself, we have taken the first step to Erotic Transformation.

Erotic Transformation is only one choice away.

Making the choice to move towards transforming our erotic selves is an act of true dedication, one worthy of our attention.

The adventure of digging deeply into ourselves is often derailed by the depths of our sadness.

To make matters more complicated, we may shy away from our murky swamps of self-criticism or our ill-fated traps of self-doubt.

Yet persevere we must!

Over 62.5 million women in America alone suffer from being erotically under or unexpressed. This staggering statistic is rising more each year.

The reason?

We have forgotten to claim our erotic nature.

Without eros—that which animates life—we are lifeless.

We age quickly and suffer untold emotional and physical imbalances.

Many of us have lost hope. Many of us have never known hope.

Our Eros is not lost. It is just hidden deep within us.

Steps to Reclaiming our Erotic Nature:

1. Where ever you are now is perfect. When you can accept yourself exactly as you are this is, ironically, when things change.
2. Loving yourself into wholeness. Whatever dares reveal itself, trust that it is there to be loved into wholeness.
3. Turn towards yourself. All our wounds are points of power. As we turn our attention towards ourselves, our curious nature will reveal the hidden gift within our pain.
4. What you think isn’t always true. Be willing to redefine yourself from moment to moment. If you think ‘I can’t’, follow through with ‘but I will take this step regardless’.
5. Only move as fast as the slowest part of you. What’s the big rush? Notice what parts of yourself are consistently left behind and start to slow down enough to include them. You will find that you will no longer take one step forward, yet two steps back. All your steps will be forward.

And let me tell you a little secret—a secret I plucked from the depths of my own personal hell.

Terrified, I refused to open my eyes for the fear of meeting the ugliest of the ugly within me.

Yet in that moment of profound fear, I peeked.

And what I saw stunned me.

There was only beauty in there.

My monsters were just my perceptions, mere shadows. Once revealed they lost all their power.

Through discovering this, I was then able to journey with others as they slay their own monsters.

I can say with confidence that thousands of women found the same secret, once they were finally willing to open their eyes.

Loving ourselves into wholeness whilst daring to explore our own erotic nature is an essential part of my work. Click to get your own copy my book to continue to explore this topic further.

*Name has been changed to protect the privacy of the individual.