Why I Wrote About Desire

We all come from desire and, whether we acknowledge it or not, desire will remain an integral and intimate part of our lives.

Yet despite its intrinsic power and influence, desire still remains one of the most misunderstood parts of being a human being. And although no one is exempt from its impact, few of us consciously engage with desire. Why is that?

The answer is multifaceted and involves looking more closely at the living edge of where our desire and conditioning rub up against each other.

We can see that now, and throughout our history, desire has been vilified as the source of human suffering and misbehaviors.

The element of chaos is one of the main reasons for desire’s ill repute. It is by nature an essential disruptor; how else would evolution progress as it does?

However, this unsettling facet of desire doesn’t need to deter us. In fact, I believe that we can use this to our own creative advantage.

Imagine harnessing such a powerful force? What would happen in our life?

There is a greater purpose to desire than just titillation or instigating trouble. In fact, my new book explores the idea that desire is an emerging, evolutionary force that we can harness for the better. The problem, however, is that we will have to contend with being consistently side-tracked by ‘hijacked desires’—desires that are co-opted by social mandates.

It’s this distinction that’s crucial to transforming our relationship with desire.

I also wanted to present desire as a symphony, giving it a greater range within our lives. This is why I looked to our desire for sex, love, creating a family, thriving, spirituality and contribution as unique and powerful desire songs.

The idea behind this came from witnessing an elder friend in a state of grief, saying she was terrified of dying with her song unsung. For years this moment touched me and led me into a deeper inquiry about my own song.

I then came to a realization that if I asked myself the simple question of “am I willing to let this song be unsung?” I would inevitably find myself confronted with the truth of a desire. In essence, this question helped me separate my true desires from hijacked ones.

It also sparked in me a daring quality necessary to propel me on my evolutionary journey. This daring quality lives in all of us, yet apathy has clouded it. It’s my hope that this little book called Desire will clear any confusion we have about our own desires and reignite our own daring nature so that we all can become the powerful creators of our own lives.

In a time when we are being overwhelmed by the monstrosity of humanity, we are in need for the nourishment of inspiration and the purification of truth—not mine, but each of our own emerging understanding of what it means to trust our own heart’s calling.

How do you feel about your desire? Would you love to understand this part of yourself more? It’s easy to get your own copy of my newest book, just visit DesireTheBook.com

10 replies
  1. Giselle Whitwell
    Giselle Whitwell says:

    Dear Saida,
    Thank you for broaching this subject. Isn’t life DESIRE? For me it is such a basic element of life, it has so many forms, nuances, evolution and qualities from the mundane to the loftiest feeling, exploration … Do we really honor our desires consciously ? Are we even aware of them?
    Sweet blessings and thank you for your courage and sticking your neck out for us all. With love, Giselle

  2. Claire
    Claire says:

    looking forward to the book! so often our soul has Holy Desires that get conflated with social, cultural, or ego desires. is that what you mean by hijacked desires?

  3. Rosalind
    Rosalind says:

    Once again Saida, you have harnessed your energy and eloquently, succinctly and on the mark, named an essential ingredient in living a vibrant life. I honor your dedication to your path and your sharing the wealth of wisdom you have learned through you own experience, with the world! Goddess Bless You!
    With Bountiful Love,

  4. Caroline
    Caroline says:

    Your fire has always inspired me, even more than the subjects you fight for. I am talking about that inner fire that keeps you moving, that keeps pushing you forward, to be more creative, more assertive and to make an honest contribution to the world. All this with an open vulnerable heart, not trying to hide neither trying to avoid being hurt or seen.
    This drive that makes one go for things with courage and daring, I can’t find in me. I feel the pain of not being able to touch that deep drive, act upon it and make a contribution to the world, especially with all the social conditioning and my self-preservation tendency. That leaves me apathetic, lacking life and not knowing what is my real and deepest desire. To know that is my deepest desire now 🙂
    Thank you from my heart for your book and your work.
    I will buy it, although reading became for me another way of staying in the safe zone 🙂

    Love and best wishes for the launching of your book

    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Ah, yes! I feel that 🙂 This same fire inspires me too 😉 I’m excited for you to read the book, and join the book club (and get the playbook – so you can explore for yourself what this means for you).


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