Instinctual Wisdom

How aware are you of your arousal cues? Do you know what this means?

Do you know the difference between “feeling safe” and “being safe”?

How connected are you with your own instinctual wisdom?

In this month’s delicious tip, I invite you to explore your own natural wildness and how domestication has impacted your life.

I want to hear from you. Did you discover your arousal cues? Was it surprising? How? Did you feel into your own experience of “being safe” and “feeling safe”? Have your wires been crossed? Are you willing to uncross them? And… are you willing to reconnect with your own wildness? If not, why not?

Please me a comment below so we can deepen this conversation and don’t forget to subscribe, share and like this video.


27 replies
  1. Sheela
    Sheela says:

    Happy Birthday Saida!
    Thank you for bringing up this important subject! It’s helping me to review my responses/non-responses in situations and around others.
    I wonder if you could give some examples of arousal cues, since it may vary among women.
    It would be informative for many of us who are unconscious at times, of it happening & then become surprised at others’ interactions with us.

    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Sure Sheela, a typical cue would be a gentle pulsing in the yoni, some women also experience a rush (even a very subtle one) through their whole body, some feel suddenly more awake and alive.

      I would encourage you to notice the cues directly from your yoni.

  2. Anon
    Anon says:

    After watching your video, I devised an experiment for myself… I was going to a lunch with some other women, and I decided to see if, apart form feeling aware of my own sex and the energy associated with it, I could also choose to be aware of the same energy in the other women. What resulted was this incredible feeling of compassion, it was quite stunning. Just by bringing my awareness to their sex organs and my own (not in a sexual way, though I would have been open to that if it had arisen), I felt a deep connection to these women, a warm current running far beneath the nattering and gossiping and stories we were exchanging. So thank you, I would not have made that discovery were it not for your little challenge 🙂

  3. Marsha burack
    Marsha burack says:

    First of all, I want to say thatI have taken a few of your workshops and have your Jade a. I have a late identify with you, I have written books and CDs but being a wounded healer, I have not really been able to get out with my products even though I do work with clients. So I feel like if I had been well I would’ve been you. So you mean a lot to me. I love your delicious tip for this month. I am examining what turns me on and I love doing that. Also the boundaries and what makes me feel safe, when I tune into you, I don’t just get the an estatic being eating the strawberries, no I get great solidity and depth and safety. I love that. I just recently had a whole body orgasm, an orgasm that went from my groin through all the chakras into my heart. All my physical problems disappearedfor that moment in a while afterwards it happen spontaneously, so I am wondering what the future will hold. I am 73 but I’m an obvious Beidel kundalini master. My book that I did combines art and Healing

  4. Jodie
    Jodie says:

    Thanks Saida for those great tips. I’m definitely keen to take up your challenge and become more aware of these aspects in myself. I found your discussion about being an instinctual women interesting also as I have been feeling a disconnection to life and myself (domesticated) recently. And so I have decided to listen to the voice inside me that is asking me to go hiking in the mountains of NZ. I am really looking forward to connecting with mother nature and my wild women in this way. Thank you for your reminders about what is important. x

  5. Anita
    Anita says:

    Thank you!…and Happy Birthday! Working on these connections has been my focus for the last year or so. I am exploring this in myself to help the women I work with. I’m glad you’re here, and I’ll direct them to you!!

  6. Cassandra
    Cassandra says:

    This video was very timely because on Friday I mentioned to a friend how I was at a conference and felt very aroused. I was aroused because at the conference there were many things that ignited my senses. For example lots of beautiful people and many entrepreneurs displaying their creativity of art, books and clothes. I found when I was talking with men I was admiring the different aspects of them and was feeling aroused. It was a wonderful experience.
    After watching this video I am going to be more aware of moments like this. Thank for the video and I hope you had a fabulous B earthday.

  7. Penny
    Penny says:

    You’re a gorgeous soul…thank you for sharing. I love your work, the Jade egg practice. I feel it more all the time and love to share your books, videos, tips. Happy birthday! Xo

  8. Amanda
    Amanda says:

    Thank you Saida for this video! How important it is to honor the boundaries of one’s self. For me it has been a struggle and I let too much cross that line before I even recognize the intrusion for what it is. I’ve noticed before, just as you say in the video, that by acknowledging my own true desires I get to know myself and my safe space better. I will definitely start working on some healthy boundaries again – to let in what feels good and keep out what does not. This is the key to my situation at the moment and I received it just at the right time. Thank you for that! <3

  9. rachel
    rachel says:

    Feel deeply sad listening here, in how much so many of us still dis connected to our wild nature nature. I notice i never feel arousal when out and about. Ever. I often feel fear. And sometimes a tension in my jaw or smile in an uncomfortable way. I’m guessing this is an automatic pattern shutting off any possibility of registering arousal and it being okay to feel this. While i have been out of an evangelical fundamental christian setting for many years now, the early legacy seems to still need more unwinding. While i tell myself its okay to feel aroused and its a natural life force that i want flowing through me, my body is still living out a different pattern. I will play with seeing if when i feel the fear if i can ask ‘might this instead be arousal?’.

    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Rachel, think of your “arousal” simply as a sign that you are alive and that your body is responding to life. It doesn’t mean you have to be sexual or even do anything about the sensation… it does mean you get to notice how your body responds to life and you get to create more and more experiences where you feel powerful, turned-on, and deeply aligned with your living truth.

  10. Aleksandra
    Aleksandra says:

    I want to second this amazing GIFT you shared on your B’EarthDay 🙂
    This was so incredibly powerful and useful. The ‘crossed-wires’ I have been wandering that for years in my life about myself and didn’t explore it, it is like you lit a light where it needed to be lit. Thank you so much. I will look at it more.
    Most wonderful day and many years ahead.
    With Love and Gratitude.

  11. C. L.
    C. L. says:

    Thanks Saida for your B’earthday gift to me. Your words have given me much to ponder on. My body does not feel safe even when my mind knows I have nothing to fear. Childhood trauma imprinted these experiences into my body. My wires are crossed. I want to uncross them! I will try to be curious about my ‘wildness’. Do you have other tips I could consider? I do have the Jade Egg & book.

    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Yes. Let your body know what you are her guardian and her lover. That you will always hold her with deep respect and create beautiful, safe, delicious experiences for her to come back to her natural sense of connection with the pleasure of being alive.

  12. Trish
    Trish says:

    What a GIFT you have selflessly GIVEN on YOUR birthday. Thank you, Saida. You have shared profound wisdom and thought-provoking material in this clip. My wheels are turning. I know these questions and insights are going to stay with me, slow me down, and make me think deeply. Bless you – on your birthday, and always. ~namaste~

  13. Share
    Share says:

    Love, love, love these topics! Happiest of birthdays, Saida and thank you for this joyous gift. May it come back to you many-fold (-:


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