Are Your Stories Running Your Life?

We are all amazing story-tellers…

Just listen and you’ll hear stories being told everywhere: In coffee shops, on the News, in Magazines, in Facebook and so on.

Stories are fascinating and they energize us, but they can also keep us from meeting life fully in this moment.

They can also keep us from living our true radiance and from daring into our desires.

In this month’s Delicious Tip, I explore with you the impact of our ‘retelling’ of our story and invite you to become more engaged in being an active CREATRIX in your life.

Leave me your thoughts below, I LOVE your opinion!

Want to challenge yourself daily?  Join The Daring Project, it’s free for 30-days! Click here to join.

16 replies
  1. Luhia
    Luhia says:

    I absolutely LOVED this. A few months on, I can say that I’ve practised the question of “Who would I be without my story?” in difficult situations with various people, and instantly a spaciousness opens up in my heart; I realise how much my reactivity (or passivity…) to certain situations is conditioned by story telling, not my true nature. I find that I approach these intense/delicate situations with a much more open heart and loving approach (to myself and others).

    …Even in the not-so-difficult situations, it feels pretty great to tune into my essential nature, and make decisions from Her rather than from the “Best of” compilation of the record playing on autopilot in my mind… 😉

    Reply
  2. Ash
    Ash says:

    This morning there is one story in particular that has been running circles in my mind for the last few days. It pertains to my boyfriend, whom I live with, and the story is such that I find myself describing who he is and yelling about it in my mind that he is this or that and its not fair and I feel this fierceness like an angry squirrel, not a centered woman, its frantic and mad and on the verge of tears. When you asked us to imagine amnesia I felt an immense sense of relief, imagining myself making tea and having none of the stories in my mind when he will eventually enter the kitchen upon waking. The moment before I was able to sink into the relief I had a wide eyed moment of fear with the thought, “there will be no one here to protect me”. Now this is ridiculous in one aspect because my boyfriend is a gentle loving sweetheart, he is not physically dangerous in any way, yet that story stems from another story that I need to protect my heart and fight away those I love, proving that I can be on my own and be just fine, or some other ridiculous false warrior story. I am much relieved in this moment to feel that without the story there is no danger and without the story I can feel the love in my heart bubbling over with the enthusiasm of “finally you let me out!!”.
    Thank you Saida! So glad this is the video I stumbled across today 🙂

    Reply
  3. Sarah
    Sarah says:

    Thank you so much for this Saida. Yes, when I imagine myself in this moment without a story, I DO feel more creative and open to all the possibilities, actually, open to “the truth” of whatever’s happening. That is so liberating.

    Thank you again!

    Sarah

    Reply
    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      YAY Sarah! That’s amazing! Keep practicing, especially in the more ‘habitual trigger’ moments and see what happens.

      Reply
  4. Kathleen
    Kathleen says:

    Hey Saida. I realised i have almost imperceptibly slipped into generalised stories in most aspects of my life at the moment. Which came as a bit of a surprise. They seemed so “real” – no surprise there! No stories, feels like openness and freedom. I wondered where that had gone. Thank you, wonderful woman

    Reply
  5. Ilse
    Ilse says:

    I really like this idea Saida but I’ve been giving some thought to why we continue re-enlivening the past stories particularly around grief. And I think that there is a fear that if we don’t stay connected to that story and stop giving it life then that connection to that person truly is severed and we no longer validate that that persons existed. So we need to find ways to let go of the stories while honouring our love ones departure. Not easy any ideas? Lots of love ilse

    Reply
    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Not easy ideas indeed. Yet imagine if we actually co-created a world where birth and death were events that we witnessed and partook in, so they were natural aspects of life, just like breathing? What you describe is an idea that we must grieve to keep a person’s memory alive, but what if we remembered and celebrated their life, no matter how short or long it was?

      Reply
  6. Ana
    Ana says:

    Thanks Saida, I like how U challenge me. The story I’m re-telling right now is that I can’t have a sustainable love relationship with a dynamic healthy sexual balance coz I push away my man with expectation then want to kill him coz he doesn’t meet my needs. Aargggg. I’ll try practise what U suggest…

    Reply
    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Ahhh… POWERFUL one Ana. What would happen if you didn’t rely on this story? Ask yourself, every time this challenge comes up, “How would I respond to this if I didn’t have my story?” and see what emerges.

      Reply
  7. Angelas
    Angelas says:

    My old story is that I have to be what others want me to be in order to survive, ie in order to make money! The story that has run my life has been I have to do what ‘they’ want (and expect!!) to survive. I have spent my whole life trying to be what others want. That story is dying now. I am shedding my skin and ready for a re-birth. I would like to create a new story around money. I am creating that I am now free to be fully who I am and be very well paid. I am perfect as I am and life supports me to birth my truth. I am expressing my heart and soul truth and am now very well paid. I am paid well to be exactly who I am. Being myself pays off. I am a successful Birth Spirituality and Healing Coach. I am paid well to do what I love and feel most passionate about. Ah Saida I love your work, thank you, thank you beautiful woman.

    Reply
    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Thank you Angela! Can you feel the creativity of not referring to your story and being alive with what is emerging as a natural part of your essence?

      Reply
  8. Cynthia
    Cynthia says:

    I fully understand what it means to have a story, but it drains you. I’ve carried a lot of baggage with me for years. It all deal with hurt, from losing my mom at 9, to being raped to having lung cancer. I often try my best to use the hard spots as a cushion for me that didn’t allow me to give up. The one msn I truly loved hurt me beyond my core. I’ve moved on, but he haunts my dreams. After he remarried, I moved away and started my life over. 12 years of lies and his cheating. My family even turned against me when I moved out. I want to love in a good way, but so afraid nobody is real anymore. I think we say what we know will get us attention and we try to cover up the real pain. I think if I had the chance to do it over again, I’d change a few things.

    Reply
    • Saida Desilets
      Saida Desilets says:

      Very powerful Cynthia. Can you see how you are free to keep creating NEW experiences instead of reliving the same story over and over again?

      Reply

Leave a Reply

Want to join the discussion?
Feel free to contribute!

Leave a Reply to Saida Desilets Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published.