Menopause: 5 Biggest Lies Exposed

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If you believe sex and sensuality are over and a thing of youth, think again!

Menopause is not the end, but the beginning.

It is the beginning of the most sexual, sensual, expressed, and powerful time in a woman’s life. 

What was that?!

Isn’t it a time when our ovaries retire and our world recedes into loving grand-children and baking cookies for Bingo?

Thankfully, that is not the truth!

Menopause is our initiation into the power stage of our life. This doesn’t mean we suddenly gain power and rule over the world, but it does mean we are invited to claim our full sovereignty, and yes, sensuality!

What is in your way of being the most alive, juicy, pleasure-full woman now?

For the most part, it’s you.

You would believe yourself insane if the way in which you regard yourself and what you believe to be true didn’t fully realize itself.

So, how do you regard yourself? Do you see yourself as old? Drying up? Unsexy? Undesirable? Because if you do, this will be what you ‘act as true’ in your life.

What would happen to your reality if you suddenly chose to regard yourself as beautiful? Juicy and vibrant? Full of pleasure yet to be explored and experienced? Notice how those statements feel in your body.

If you don’t have the best self-image and deepest self-love, its not your fault!!! There is a multi-billion dollar industry which shameless publishes ‘studies’ that ‘prove’ that menopause is a ‘disease’, causing us to age and become sexless, thus, convincing us we need their drugs in order to be healthy.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

In order to more fully comprehend this radical shift of perspective, we must first be willing to die to a few ideas we believe to be truths:

Lie #1: Ovaries stop working after menopause.

Fact: Ovaries of healthy women continue to function for the duration of their life!

Lie #2: Estrogen levels go down with menopause, thus, we must take hormones to supplement our body.

Fact: With all the toxins and poisons we are exposed to on a regular basis (as well as the ones we consciously ingest) contribute to over-loading our Liver. When our Liver no longer properly regulates our estrogen levels, we can actually end up with too much estrogen!

Lie #3: Our ovaries are our only source of estrogen & progesterone.

Fact: Actually, along with our ovaries, our adrenal glands and body fat also produce these hormones.

Lie #4: Hot flashes are due to estrogen deficiency and are relieved by hormone therapy.

Fact: Hot flashes are more closely related to life-style choices than to estrogen levels. They actually occur at any age and funnily, do not exist in women who live away from pollution, who eat a diet of whole foods, and who exercise regularly.

Lie #5: Vaginal Dryness is due to insufficient estrogen and caused by menopause.

Fact: Dryness can occur at any time in a woman’s life and is not directly related to an estrogen problem. The more active women are sexually, the less prone to dryness they are. “If you don’t use it, you lose it” 

So does that all mean? It means GREAT NEWS!!!

Menopause is a time when ‘enough is enough.’

For one, if we have spent most of our life abusing our body and not providing her with the best food, rest, and exercise, then now is not too late to start! What could you do today towards delighting in your body?

If we have ignored or dishonored our emotions for the majority of our life, they will definitely make their presence known, if not consciously, then unconsciously through the creation of a ‘dis-ease’ or injury or ‘dis-function’.

Menopause offers us the chance to review our lives and make new, powerful, juicy choices that will not only honor our deepest truth, but fully express them shamelessly.

If we have never claimed our passion, we will be invited to do so lest we start to dry up and die to the Mystery of Life itself.

What makes you purr from the inside out? 

What have you always longed for and have’t yet said yes to? 

The more we activate our passion, the more pleasure we will feel, and the more pleasure we feel, the more healthy and gorgeous we become.

Having taught thousands of women world-wide, I have been honored to witness those in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and yes, even 80s reclaim their body and their succulence. It is never too late to transform our body into its true potential of unlimited pleasure and beauty and health. A great way to begin reclaiming your sensuality and aliveness is starting with my book: Emergence of the Sensual Woman, Click to buy now.

Betrayal:

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The Best Thing That Ever Happened To Me.

How can it be the best thing when it is so utterly painful that you feel your heart will be forever broken into a million pieces.

And the ghosts of a past betrayal haunt your current relationship, making it very painful and difficult to trust again.

Just when you finally can open your heart, you experience yet another betrayal, this time you feel broken beyond repair.

Because of your poorly mended heart, you can never fully surrender to the love that is present and instead you keep creating suspicious reasons to reinforce your pain-story.

Perhaps, to gain some power back, you have become the “other woman” and have seduced a ‘taken’ partner from their relationship.

Whatever the scenario, betrayal hurts.

And the pain can last a lifetime, if we don’t know how to turn it around. If we forget that betrayal is actually an invitation.

Yes, betrayal is an invitation.

As overwhelming the pain of betrayal can be, it actually holds no power over us, except the one we assign to it.

Most of us would love to move on, to be able to have an innocent heart again, and to be able to love fearlessly.

Yet we can’t.

No matter who is with us, we see the past edging in.

In fact, some of us are so good at keeping betrayal alive that our current partner has no choice but to play this out and betray us as well.

But what does it mean: Betrayal?

In the dictionary, it refers to betrayal to be either treacherously giving information to an enemy or to be disloyal to someone.

Just for a moment, let’s step back from our pain and use an eagle’s eye to view the situation.

Scenario:

You are dying inside. You need something new.

Something to wake you out of your slumber.

You discover a passion and it possesses your every waking thought. If you do not pursue it and live it, it means death.

Will you betray yourself for the sake of keeping everyone happy or will you risk the venom of being a betrayer only to be loyal to the deep calling in your heart?

Because this is what is alive in every betrayer, whether or not they are conscious of it.

And the betrayed?

As long as we remain convinced of our victimhood, we will forever wallow in the agony of loneliness and heartache.

It takes deep courage to see a situation for what it is.

I was betrayed.

Not once, but many times.

Each time came as a painful surprise. Each time it hit me like an angry Mack truck, smashing my reality and dreams simultaneously.

Yet the last time it happened, I did something different.

Which is why I chose to write this.

Yes, I was in profound agony and confusion, but a part of me grew curious. She wanted to know if I could forgive and love anyway.

And I did.

I loved deeply. So much so that I was moved by my capacity for love.

This was the first step to healing.

The second was to realize that the dream was over. There was no going back. He loved another.

We divorced without a fight, my only request is that he never contact me again.

I needed the space to feel myself, all by myself. With no one pulling on my heart strings.

This was the second step to healing.

The third was quite stunning. And I don’t expect it to be the same for every woman reading this.

But I became the ‘other woman’. Not by vengeance, but by recognizing love.

It was important for me to do things as consciously as possible. To speak with and meet with the girlfriend.

The truth is: they were already split up, but not fully.

So the fourth step to healing was to claim myself for myself and to respect myself fully along with everyone else involved.

I told her she could hate me, curse at me, or do whatever one does when one has a broken heart.

I held her when I said these things.

But everyone knew that what had come to pass had to.

It always does.

That was the fifth part of my understanding: nothing ever happens that isn’t already perfect.

My husband cheating on me the night of my birthday led to a divorce which freed me up to be with the man I am with now.

He leaving his girlfriend freed her up to meet her now fiance to start a new life more aligned with her dreams.

The sixth part of the healing process was to give up looking for signs of betrayal.

And to start looking for evidence of devotion. Because we will always find what we are looking for, reality is strange that way.

Loving myself deeply, trusting myself again, and being willing to come back to an erotically innocent space has shown me the gift of betrayal.

Are you ready to heal your heart and transform the pain of betrayal into your own empowerment? Then Click here to get your own copy of my book, The Emergence of the Sensual Woman.