You are out with your man and a gorgeous woman walks by, he almost breaks his neck from following her with his eyes.
You find your man flipping through picture after picture of beautiful women on the internet while he barely notices your presence.
On the beach, you are walking hand in hand with your lover when you notice his eyes lingering on a beautiful woman’s shapely tanned body.
Before you start to get angry or feel betrayed and hurt, you may want to step back for a moment and take a better look at your man.
As frustrating as his ‘wandering eyes’ can be, there is a gift to them!
The key is to understand this natural masculine response to beauty and to take full advantage of it.
Why do his eyes wander?
Before accusing him of being unfaithful or just a plain outright pervert, you may want to peek into the motivator behind the action.
We love this guy, don’t we?
In fact, testosterone is responsible for that feeling of desire and is the instigator behind our libido.
Without testosterone, there would be no sexual play, no attraction, just cuddles and snuggles, but not hot, burning lust.
Testosterone also is behind the sexy, strong muscles we love so much.
What about confidence?
Testosterone again! Self-confidence and assertiveness are enhanced with its presence.
And don’t we just love a confident man who knows what he wants?
Yet the very same hormone is initiates sexual thoughts and fantasies and increases our desire for one-night stands and affairs, as it is quite fond of novelty.
Which is where the ‘other woman’ comes in.
The unknown beauty ramps up your mans testosterone levels and before you know it, his eyes are eating her alive.
The same happens within us, albeit at levels a little less intense then an man’s.
Now, testosterone has a buddy.
LHRH. In fact, it is LHRH that kick starts our man’s testosterone when a gorgeous woman shows up.
It also regulates testosterone levels in his body making sure that he is always ‘ready and willing’ when a woman is available.
Now here’s the catch:
Stress and the threat of danger can short-circuit this cyclical two-part harmony and shut down your man. The same is true for you.
Here’s the deal.
When a man’s has been in a relationship for a long time, there is often a loss of novelty, of excitement, and therefore, the loss of testosterone.
To make matters worse, the stress of life and feelings of being dominated or belittled dwindle a man’s testosterone levels.
In fact, one of the worst culprits of male castration has been the Feminist movement. Men no longer know how to be good men AND maintain their testosterone levels.
Have you castrated you man? Do you hang him ‘out by the balls’?
Men are remarkably sensitive creatures.
Testosterone, as potent and delicious as it can be, is also phenomenally delicate and easily disrupted by external causes.
As a man ages and perhaps gains a little weight, his testosterone levels go down. When he loses, at work or socially, his levels plummet.
The lower they are, the less drive he will have, both inside and outside of the bedroom
But there’s help.
By encouraging your man’s testosterone and LHRH levels.
Before kicking his butt down to the local gym and getting him to pump iron, you may want to consider how powerful your influence actually is.
Rev his motor and ride his turn on!
Once you understand that you can play a part in creating a sexy, confident, and turned on man, you may find great joy in creating new ways to titillate your man.
Here are a few suggestions:
1. Point out hot women to him and let him know that his turn on is your turn on.
2. Send him texts or emails with images of gorgeous women (that you find beautiful too).
3. Write him an explicit fantasy of your own. Get wild in your story-telling and leave it on his desk-top for him to find.
4. If you are game, turn yourself on and record your own sounds of pleasure. Talk to him and let him know what you are doing. Send him the recording or leave it on his voice mail.
Men are both highly visual and auditory.
The more you surprise him this way, the more excited and delighted he will be. And the healthier his levels of testosterone will be.
Through gifting our man the freedom to respond to beauty, he will find a new sense of novelty within his relationship, finding us all the more attractive and desirable.
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